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come to terms with (something)

to accept or learn to live with something difficult

In Spanish

aceptar, hacerse a la idea de

Examples

  • It took him years to come to terms with the loss.
  • After the accident, she struggled to come to terms with her new reality.
  • He's finally coming to terms with his parents' divorce after many years.

When it's used

This idiom is used to describe the process of accepting a difficult or inevitable situation. It is common in both speech and writing and is used in both formal and informal contexts. It's a well-known and frequently used expression among native speakers.

The common mistake

A common mistake is using the phrase 'come to terms about' instead of 'with.' English speakers use 'with' to indicate the specific situation being accepted, and changing the preposition alters the meaning.

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Recognising it isn't the same as using it

Reading an idiom and understanding it is step one. Dropping it into a conversation, at the right moment, without stopping to think, is another — and that only comes from speaking.

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